Last week I talked about the long distance relationship that Avery and I have (post here). I wanted to discuss some of the ways we overcame the distance challenge. When it comes to LDRs or just relationships in general if you’re not writing letters and notes to your loved ones you’re missing out. Think about the last time you actually received something sweet in the mail or on your desk. The fact that someone took the time to send anything at all is flattering, but when it is evident that it took a little more time and thought to put it together, it becomes so much more meaningful and fun.
It doesn’t really take a lot to get started and you can get really creative with it. Avery and I started by sending weekly or biweekly letters just chatting about our weeks and saying how we missed each other. We would talk about anything under the sun. One day though the games began. Avery started it all by sending me drawings. Let me share with you a little secret… he can’t draw to save his life. I died laughing when he drew me a picture of a pie (an ongoing joke and a story for another day). He even sent me an adorable child like drawing of a house and two stick figures of us with a puppy. It probably seems mean that I laughed, but it was so him and I was so happy that I put them up all over my walls. My friends would wander in and ask what the heck that was about and it cheered me up to tell stories.
Every time he would send me something new, I sent him something different too! My letters started coming with little origami stars that when he unrolled them had a little motivational quote or I love you on it. When he sent postcards, I would send open when… letters. I nearly died from laughter when I got a card that said “thinking of you” just to open it and see it said naked. It was all about making each other smile and sharing the love.
To this day I have my favorite pictures and letters in a special little box that I can look at every time I miss him. Some of them are three years old and yet I still have them. We haven’t sent letters so much any more because we are not as far apart, but that habit has translated into new things for us. I created a little notebook with memories and photos as a gift for him. We leave little notes and gifts for each other (yes, Avery the soft pretzels count as my present to you every time I make them). Writing letters built a foundation in our relationship that I value deeply. It taught us to make time for each other, to care for each other, and to find joy in the littlest of things. If you’re not writing letters to your significant other, even if you live together, you’re missing out on the opportunity do something really special together.
So, what is your favorite thing to send to your significant other?